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How does DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) help build Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills?

Interpersonal effectiveness skills, often associated with Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can help individuals navigate relationships, communicate effectively, and establish healthy boundaries. Here are some key skills for interpersonal effectiveness:

  1. Effective Communication: This skill involves expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and assertively while maintaining respect for others. It includes using "I" statements, active listening, and avoiding aggressive or passive communication styles.

  2. Assertion: Assertion skills help individuals express their wants, needs, and boundaries confidently and respectfully. It involves being clear, direct, and specific in your communication, expressing yourself without aggression or passivity, and using appropriate body language and tone of voice.

  3. Self-Respect Effectiveness: This skill emphasizes the importance of valuing yourself and your needs in interpersonal interactions. It involves recognizing and advocating for your boundaries, saying no when necessary, and prioritizing self-care without feeling guilty.

  4. Relationship Building: Building and maintaining healthy relationships requires skills such as empathy, active listening, and understanding others' perspectives. These skills involve showing interest, asking open-ended questions, validating others' emotions, and seeking common ground.

  5. Problem-Solving: Effective problem-solving skills help individuals address conflicts and find solutions that satisfy everyone involved. This includes identifying the problem, generating alternative solutions, evaluating potential outcomes, and collaboratively working towards a resolution.

  6. Mindfulness in Relationships: Mindfulness skills can enhance interpersonal effectiveness by being fully present, non-judgmental, and attentive during interactions. It involves observing and accepting your own emotions and thoughts, as well as being receptive to others' experiences.

  7. Emotion Regulation: Emotional regulation skills are crucial in managing your own emotions during interpersonal interactions. This includes identifying and labeling emotions, using coping strategies to manage intense emotions, and preventing emotional escalation or impulsive reactions.

  8. Boundary Setting: Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for healthy relationships. This skill involves recognizing and asserting your personal limits, saying no when necessary, and communicating your boundaries effectively.

  9. Dealing with Criticism: Criticism can be challenging to handle, but developing skills to receive and respond to criticism constructively is important for maintaining relationships. This includes listening non-defensively, considering the validity of the criticism, and responding calmly and assertively.

  10. Problematic Relationship Patterns: Recognizing and addressing problematic relationship patterns is crucial for interpersonal effectiveness. This involves identifying patterns such as codependency, enabling, or toxic dynamics and working towards healthier relationship dynamics.


These skills are not developed overnight, and they require practice and ongoing effort. Working with a therapist trained in DBT or interpersonal effectiveness can provide guidance, support, and additional strategies to enhance your interpersonal skills.


To find out if DBT therapy is a good fit for you, please contact Kairos Wellness Collective today.